For the past few weeks I’ve been struggling with this post. Going over ways to approach it and trying to decide if I wanted to really do a post about it. I discussed the issue on my podcast with my co host because the situation involved both of. However, on my blog I try to use my life experiences as teachable moments or ways to inspire others in their lives. That’s where the conflict comes because I struggled with finding ways to turn this into a moment to motivate and inspire. Eventually I decided to be transparent and let my words take action.
A few weeks ago I and my podcast co host was approached by a mutual close friend. For the record I am a little closer to this person than my co-host but we’ve all been knowing each other for the same amount of time. Over the years we have developed a sisterhood. We may not communicate daily but we support each other, pray for one another, cheer each other on, you get the point. This friend approached us because she felt as though we didn’t support her in her newest business venture. This created a huge conflict between and subsequently caused our friendship to come to an end with this person.
What bothered me the most about the situation was this person was accusing me of not supporting her project when she hasn’t been the biggest supporter of me and my projects. Whenever I would ask her to do things to show support for me she gave excuses or didn’t do anything at all. When she accused me for not being supportive she was upset that I didn’t do some of the same things I asked of her… I was hot! What should have been a true sisterhood moment to be real and up front with each other turned into an all out falling out. It was at the moment that how I saw this person completely changed. I started to see her for who she was and decided it was time to move on.
Here’s what I learned about friendship from this situation:
- Make sure you are willing to meet the your expectations of your friends. Don’t require something from them that you can’t give yourself.
- Be upfront and honest with your friends. No one wants to feel like the person they call a friend is a fake.
- Time and space won’t effect your friendship. Friends should be able to reconnect and move forward regardless of how long they have been apart.
- Misunderstandings are just that…friends are willing to try and resolve a misunderstanding for the sake of their friendship.
Friends appreciate each other. This is what keeps the bond close. All parties are thankful for that person being in their life contributing to their live no matter how big or small.
Peace and love