I was just driving in my car and I thought what is the difference between being alone and being lonely. Me being the person that I am, I googled the words to see the definitions. Alone is defined as being by yourself. Lonely is defined as feeling sad because you have no one. Once I read the definitions my perspective on being alone and lonely changed instantly.
For a long time I thought being alone and lonely was one in the same. Now I understand they are not. Being alone is just that a being. It’s not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. Loneliness is a based on a feeling. Feelings are temporary and can change from one moment to the next. What you do in those moments is what matters most.
I can be honest and say that I have been guilty of saying My biggest fear is growing old alone. When honestly, I don’t mind being alone. I will go out and have a good time by myself in a heartbeat. What I can’t handle is feeling lonely. I can’t imagine going from day to day being sad about not having anyone in my life that includes a mate, friends, and family. Being lonely feels like your happiness is based on other people and I don’t know if I can be comfortable with that.
If you are in a place where you are alone for whatever reason; a breakup, kids are out of the house, you’ve decided to move away, whatever. You may be alone but you don’t have to be lonely. It’s up to you decide how you feel about where you are. Don’t allow other people to make you feel like being alone is a bad thing either. Learn to be content with where you are and make the best of your current situation.
Peace and Love